Ego, jealousy, search for identity, depression, enlightenment, awareness are the inevitable senses and facts which create us throughout life. So, what kind of person we become at the beginning of the life and what we turn into afterwards? Do the people around us change us or we change our companions? Our roles are perhaps intertwined and intricate. Like each other’s mirrors or hazy glasses.
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Initially, the family and country into which we born determine our destiny. Then, the choices we make form our life style, even before we haven’t known ourselves. Throughout life rush, our identity appears to us as a completely different from the road we started . Aftertimes, we realize that our jobs don’t fit us in real. The worst thing is that our life partners are so far from us! So,a despair covers us , and we squirm in exhaustion. Unfortunately , the monotonous days follow each other, and we start the same song: “ easy come easy go!”
In this case, will we despair right now or face the reality? Will we say nothing will change and step aside? Our choices will indicate our actions, however we should keep in mind that everything we sweep under the carpet eventually comes out as a dust ball leaving us breathless! On that point, it’s time to ask these three questions:
– Who are we?
– What do we live for?
– Are we in the right place?
At first , giving the answers are not initial base. The main purpose is to be able to ask these questions sincerely. Are we in moods pushing us to this questioning or not? Do we end our days with exhaustion and go to beds restless internally? Are we still lack of something even though we have so much, and in a life which is full but truly aimless? So now, we are at a crossroad . We will continue this routine that drags us down day by day, or decide to change something? Maybe, it’s the fear of changing which keeps us away from taking action, because the unknown always scares us, and we insist on keeping the usual. In this case, we need to meet the new one! In order to embark on a new path, we must firstly make small changes. At first step, we will intend, then take a reaction. For example, starting a healthier eating habits will help us to feel energitic, thus going for a walk daily won’ t be hard for us. If we have no chance to walk, we will create some time for resting our minds during the day. Likewise, closing eyes and standing on a silent, peaceful place or moment will be our routine. Then, we will obtain a minimal life with less goods and possessions in our houses. Donating what is more than necessary will make us feel well. Maybe after, feeding animals outside and adopting one of them will get us to see the Earth through the completely different glasses. Reading good books and watching inspiring movies will be more attractive than being in crowd, furthermore having coffee with a bestie, who really accepts us as we are, will rescue us from crowded loneliness. Keeping a diary , taking notes our to do list will show our way, because keeping notes about the things we always want but postpone every time, will display our real goals. If we cannot keep it regularly, we won’ t be frustrated. Unlike, getting on well with our weaknesses will make us stronger. If we don’ t try to understand the real reasons laying under our weak sides, how can we strengthen them? Beyond this, we must accept that we are only human and cannot be perfect! It shouldn’t be forgotten that as one bad habit is gained by simple routine, also a good one can be adopted by this way. For this reason, we need good routines that will make us better rather than consuming us.
The truth is that we are questioning what we are when we really want to be in this life. Some false thoughts, we think never being get out of ,are keeping us from our true selves. If we accept the fact that behaviors create thoughts, and thoughts direct the behaviors, it is the best start by changing what we do everyday. As a result, as long as we are not afraid to question ourselves , we will live this life without missing it. Then, what shall we say? Either we will take the reins of this life or it will throw us here and there!
Esra Şeker/lhpinhan 2023
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